Caring for a Pregnant Wife
Pregnancy is an extremely challenging time for women, both emotionally and physically, but what most people forget is that it can be hard for the man as well. No husband likes to sit idly by, thinking that there is nothing that they can contribute towards making things easier for their wife who is growing a little person inside of her. The whole process can often be bewildering for many men, and it’s not always clear how to help. To avoid backing away during the time that you should be stepping up, consider some of the following tips.
Do Some Research
Right from the start, you should begin reading up on pregnancy. The more you know about what she’s going though, the better equipped you are to empathise with her stress. There are hundreds of parenting books that can help, such as “What to Expect When You’re Expecting” or “The Expectant Father”. Reading these will help you understand what your wife is experiencing every step of the way.
Come for the Doctor’s Visits
There are many reasons why it’s important that you accompany your wife to her doctor appointments. The first reason is that it shows her that you are there for her every step of the way, and that you are willing to be involved with the pregnancy process. Secondly, you will be informed and up-to-date about the pregnancy and will be in a better position to help her, especially when it comes to helping her remember everything that the doctor said during the visit. Finally, seeing your baby on the screen and hearing the heartbeat will contribute to forging a stronger bond between you and your baby.
Reduce Her Stress
Not only will you be helping your wife, but you will also be helping your baby if you take steps to reduce her stress. Pregnancy is physically and emotionally demanding, so it’s important that you don’t burden your wife with unnecessary worries. If this means you do all the cooking, cleaning and grocery shopping for a while, then you should do it. She will also feel better if she sees you taking steps towards being ready for the baby’s arrival, such as by getting the baby room ready and picking up supplies such as nappies, clothes and baby food.
During this time, every little thing you do to help your wife will be appreciated, even if it’s as small as giving her a foot rub once in a while, or surprising her with a bouquet of flowers and telling her that she is beautiful.
Your wife may get emotional and demanding at some point during her pregnancy, and it’s your job to be patient with her and let things slide. One day she might be angry for no reason, and the next she might be crying on your shoulder. Just remember that these are the hormones talking, and that your job is to simply let her vent, be there for her, and to understand that emotional rollercoasters are hard on her as well. Pregnancy is scary and stressful for a woman, so your strength and stability during this time won’t go unnoticed or unappreciated by her.